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How to Dress Grunge

The grunge look is a style based around the grunge music scene–it’s comfortable, dirty, and heavily steeped in flannel. The grunge look first appeared in Seattle in the late 80s and early 90s when bands like Alice in Chains, Nirvana, and Pearl Jam were just beginning (and making a big splash in the music world). To get the grunge look, you’ll need to visit a thrift store, do some damage to some denim, and develop an I-don’t-care attitude.

Steps

Clothing

  1. Go for an unkempt look. Grunge is defined by a messy, I-don’t-care look that combines punk styles with working-class clothing. If you want to dress grunge, you will have to give up any value you might put into matching or looking too clean.[1][[
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    • Search the internet for pictures of some of the most famous grungers and grunge band members–Kurt Cobain, Courtney Love, William DuVall (of Alice in Chains) etc.
  2. Go shopping at a thrift store. Grunge style is all about cheap clothing worn in a careless way. Thrift stores like Goodwill, Salvation Army, and Crossroads are great places to get second-hand clothes that are comfortable and just the right amount of faded. Look for clothes that are a little big on you. Also H&M has some great stuff, just look up at the divided part. Avoid brightly colored items of clothing–stick with muted colors and black clothing.
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    • Thrift stores are especially good places to find jeans that can be ripped easily (see Step 4 for more on denim.) Jeans found at a thrift store are generally a little more worn and faded in color–both characteristics of a grungy vibe.
  3. Invest in flannel. One of the key pieces in any grunge wardrobe is a flannel shirt. Flannel, which is generally pretty cheap, was incorporated into the grunge look in the 90’s and continues to be reigning king of the grunge style. Look for flannels in muted, slightly faded colors. Both girls and guys can wear an over-sized flannel over a t-shirt or long-sleeved undershirt.[2]
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    • A girl-grunge classic look is large, baggy flannel worn over a black t-shirt and a baby doll skirt with big, chunky Doc Marten boots.
  4. Wear ripped denim. Better yet, make your own ripped denim and wear that. Rip jeans are another staple of the grunge style. Keep in mind that store-bought distressed jeans look different than jeans you are ripped yourself. For a more authentic grunge look, rip your own jeans. Other good grunge-jean qualities to look for are jeans that are faded, a little loose, and acid-washed denim.
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  5. Represent your favorite punk bands. Grunge was born out of a marriage between punk style and working class clothing. Because of this pairing, another grunge staple is the favorite-band-t-shirt. Think Nirvana (but not JUST Nirvana,) Pearl Jam, Alice in Chains, Mudhoney, Sound Garden, PAW, Hole, and other grunge groups. [3]
    • One key thing to keep in mind–if you are going to rep grunge bands (and dress like a grunger) you’re going to need to actually listen to the grunge music you are representing. Listen to the classic grunge bands of the late 80’s and early 90’s–but also look into the grunge scene in your area. Start following a local grunge band, or start your own.
  6. Layer your clothes. As stated above, grunge is mostly about being comfortable and not caring how you look. A good way to get into the grunge look is by layering your clothing. Wear a big flannel or sweater over a grunge band t-shirt over a long-sleeved thermal (and so on and so forth.) Another good tip to keep in mind–your clothes don’t particularly need to match.
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Shoes and Accessories

  1. Scuff up those combat boots. Grungers generally stick to boots and sneakers that can be laced up (all the better to dance in at grunge shows m’dear.) In particular, combat boots such as Doc Martens (or knock-off Docs) are a big part of the grunge look. If you can find a pair of Docs at a thrift store, you’ve hit the jackpot.[4]
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  2. Invest in some high-tops. Other grungy shoes included beat up high-tops (such as Converse) and other types of shoes that sort of look like Converse but are cheaper. Again, head to a thrift store to see what kind of scuffed up kicks you can find.
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  3. Consider wearing stockings with holes in them. While they definitely won’t keep you warm, ripped up stockings are an essential part of any lady grunger’s wardrobe. Pair them with a black baby doll dress, some big old boots, and devil red lipstick and you’ll be good to go.
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  4. Wear a beanie (if you feel like it.) Grungers aren’t really known for wearing hats, but beanies are sometimes seen gracing the heads of grungy guys and gals. Avoid beanies in bright colors (never, ever choose a neon-pink beanie.)
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    • Not feeling a beanie? Pull out a faded bandana and wrap it around your head, neck, hair, whatever.
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  5. Don’t wear too much jewelry. If anything, invest in a cool leather bracelet. If you have your ears pierced, wear simple earrings that aren’t too shiny. Also buy a choker, not those big diamond ones just the basic ones with a little charm if you like. Tattoo chokers are really great. Dressing grunge is not about dressing to impress. You could also consider getting gauges.
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Hair and Makeup

  1. Think limp and messy when it comes to hair. Like the clothing style, your hair doesn’t need to be anything fancy. Most grungers are known for their long, tangled locks that may or may not be a bit greasy (another part of the grunge style is not caring too much about hygiene.) Let your hair do whatever it wants.[5]
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  2. Grow your hair out. As stated above, many grungers let their hair do what it wants. This means not getting it cut and letting curl or fall straight, depending on what’s natural for your head. Go to any grunge show and you’ll be sure to notice that both guys and girls have long hair.
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  3. Bleach or dye your hair. Some grungers prefer a bleached or dyed look. Go wild and try new colors, or leave your hair bleached blonde-ish white. When your natural color starts growing out, you don’t need to rush to redye your roots. Believe it or not, grown-out dyed hair is a definite characteristic of the grunge scene.
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  4. Go heavy on the eyeliner. If you decide you want to wear makeup, go for black eyeliner and mascara. Smudge your makeup after you’ve applied it. You should be going for a I-spend-all-night-at-an-underground-grunge-show-dancing-my-face-off sort of look. This means smudging that eyeliner and eyeshadow.
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    • Some grunge girls like to rock bright red or dark maroon lipstick.

Tips

  • If you don’t want be called as a poser, don’t just dress the part, act it! Study up on grunge philosophy. Get into the music. And don’t forget the most important step, just be you!
  • You might get compliments for this fashion, but you might also get negative remarks. Don’t expect it, but be prepared. It’s important that you don’t care if someone does say something negative. You want to be different—so act like it.
  • Do not spend big bucks at some store at the mall getting pre-ripped jeans or having your hair dyed professionally; it just costs way too much. Instead, take a razor blade to your jeans and let your fingers rip the rest.

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How to Infuse Tequila

Infused tequila is now commonplace at fancy cocktail bars and restaurants, but you don’t have to be a bartender to create a signature flavor. Fill your liquor cabinet with strawberry blanco and jalapeno anejo tequila. A batch can be ready in a few days.

Steps

Choosing Ingredients

  1. Decide what flavor you would like to infuse in your tequila. Tropical fruit and spicy peppers are good choices for your first batch. Try one ingredient before moving on to more complex infusions.
  2. Purchase one quart of ripe fruit to use in your infusion. Choose the unbruised and best fruit for this purpose. Try the fruit so you can ensure it is sweet and delicious.
    • Purchase one quart (0.9 l) of berries for strawberry tequila.
    • Buy three large jalapenos for jalapeno tequila.
    • Use half a ripe pineapple for pineapple tequila.
    • Get 10 limes or lemons if you want to infuse citrus rinds.
    • Use three mangoes or stone fruit for mango tequila or peach tequila.
  3. Choose your tequila. Purchase a small to medium bottle of 100 percent agave tequila so that it is smooth and lacks a lot of additives. Blanco, reposado and anejo tequila all work well with infusions.
    • Blanco tequila will work best if you are planning to use it in a cocktail, like a margarita.
    • Try anejo if you want an infused sipping tequila. The aged taste may require a more precise pairing of flavors.

Infusing Tequila

  1. Buy large canning jars or glass storage containers with airtight lids. If you want to do several smaller infusions, you can try eight to 16 oz. (0.25 to 0.5 l) canning jars and split your bottle of tequila between two or three containers. Run the jars through the dishwasher to sterilize them.
  2. Soak your fruit or peppers in lukewarm water for a minute. Then, scrub the surface of the skin.
  3. Chop and divide your fruit. Remove pits, bitter peels and rinds. Cut the fruit up into sections to increase the surface area of the fruit that will be touching your tequila.
    • You can leave peach peels, strawberry skin and other mild fruit skins intact.
  4. Zest your limes or lemons. Use a citrus stripper for best results, because it will remove the peel in strips and leave the rinds. Juice the citrus.[1]
  5. Chop your hot peppers into slices. Wear rubber gloves to reduce the risk of irritating your skin.
  6. Add the fruit or peppers into the clean glass jar. Add the juice if you are doing a citrus infusion.
  7. Pour your tequila into the jar, giving it about two inches (5 cm) of headspace. Seal it and set it in a cool, dark place.

Straining a Tequila Infusion

  1. Let the tequila infusion rest for 12 hours to 10 days. The time you choose should be based on how intense the infusion should be. Jalapeno tequila should be infused for no more than five days the first time you try it.
    • If you are infusing a subtle fruit, like pear or star fruit, you can leave it infusing for up to 21 days.[2]
    • Taste the infusion every three to four days using a clean spoon to test how strong it is.
  2. Shake the infusion bottle once per day. It will break down the fruit and mix the juices.
  3. Cover a clean bowl or wide mouthed jar with a fine mesh strainer. Open your infusion jar and pour it through the strainer to remove the fruit. Repeat with a piece of cheese cloth over the strainer if you still find pulp in your tequila.[3]
  4. Wash your infusion jar or your original tequila bottle. Insert a funnel into the top and pour the infused tequila into the bottle.
  5. Label your bottle with the type of infusion and today’s date. Drink within one year.[4]

Things You’ll Need

  • Bottle of Tequila (blanco, reposado or anejo)
  • Airtight glass jar
  • Water
  • Dishwasher
  • Ripe fruit
  • Peppers
  • Knife
  • Cutting board
  • Citrus stripper
  • Rubber gloves
  • Bowl
  • Fine mesh strainer
  • Cheesecloth
  • Funnel

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How to Identify and Help Feral and Stray Cats

Summer and winter are polar opposites in the outdoor environment. While the summer days can, at times, reach triple digits, blasting cold can be intense during the winter. Some animals, such as squirrels and raccoons, have methods of hiding from the cold, but other animals, such as cats, struggle more. Identifying and telling the difference between feral and stray cats will help you greatly in determining how to best approach and help them during any weather condition.

Steps

Identifying Cats

  1. Know the definition of a stray cat. Lost or abandoned cats who still hold any domesticated characteristics will most likely be a stray. Depending on the degree range, a cat will quickly approach a human who offers food or be afraid, but will show a small interest over time.
  2. Know the definition of a feral cat. Feral cats have lived a huge part of their lives in the outdoor world and have no domesticated habits. These cats will shun humans however they can.
  3. Watch the cat’s interactions with other animals. Feral cats tend to create groups of their own, also known as colonies, while stray cats will roam and live by themselves.
  4. Analyze the body language. Feral cats will stray away from body communication, especially the eyes. Stray cats will be more apt to look directly at humans. Hissing, striking, and growling are common defense tactics used by feral cats, while strays tend to be more quiet in defending themselves, from small meows to low hissing.
  5. Observe the environment during the day and night. Both stray and feral cats tend to hang out where food can easily be found: near dumpsters, restaurants, abandoned structures, or under porches. Because strays retain some domesticated behavior, they can been seen more often during the day. Feral cats, on the other hand, are nocturnal and tend to come out of their hiding places for food runs during the night.

Helping Feral Cats

  1. Avoid hesitating to help a cat. Whether a cat is found to be stray or feral, both need the support of humans in their own way.
  2. Seek experienced help if trapping a feral cat. Because of how wild and untamed feral cats are and their reactions to humans, it’s best not to trap them yourself.
  3. Research and call a local cat organization that performs “TNR”. TNR stands for “Trap-Neuter-Return”, which is simply trapping the cats, neutering them, and returning the cats to their original “home area”.
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  4. Consider making a homemade shelter for feral cats. If you know a colony resides in the vicinity, get friends or neighbors to help you construct one or several “homes”. Leftover lumber or small dog houses are most convenient and may be the easiest resources to find. Remember the bigger the house is, the less body heat is retained in the house. Straw is the recommended bedding material and don’t forget to lay out food and water nearby.[1]

Helping Stray Cats

  1. Use a trap to most effectively catch stray cats. To avoid injuries to both yourself and the cat, you should never handle them with your bare hands, even if you have been nurturing it for a while. Choose to use bait, such as cat food or white chicken meat to lure the cat into the trap.
  2. Keep the timing in mind when planning your catch. If you are planning to visit a veterinarian within 12 hours, you may keep the cat in the cage or trap during that time. Using this method will eliminate the need to release the cat and then have to re-trap it. If the veterinarian visit is planned for a time that is further in the future, designate a closed, warm space in your house and provide food and water for the time being. Suitable areas might be the basement or a quiet, unused room.
  3. Request that the veterinarian check for a possible microchip. At the size of a grain of rice, microchips sit just underneath the skin between the shoulder blades. Scanning a microchip provides contact information about the animal owner.
  4. Think of creating lost and found notices. Craigslist, weekly newspapers, or social media sites are great ways to reach out to the community. Add a picture of the cat, a specific description, and include the area where you found the cat.
  5. Consider putting the stray cat up for adoption. Many animal shelters are typically loaded with animals, and non-adopted ones are usually put to sleep after some time to avoid overpopulation. Many people will put up a re-homing fee; this is to help ensure the cat will be going to a safe and loving home.
  6. Consider adopting the cat yourself. Taking stray cats off the street is a great alternative for pet adoption rather than using pet stores or shelters.
  7. Help your cat adapt to the new home environment. Your home environment may have a lot of obstacles and conditions the cat either may adapt after several months or years, or not at all. Some obstacles that are typically more difficult to overcome are young children and existing pets, especially dogs. High levels of patience are required and it helps if you are able to provide a dedicated room for the cat the first few months.
  8. Provide lots of encouragement for the cat. This helps the cat adjust to new territory and will likely pay off in the end by establishing a warm relationship.
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How to Get Rid of Dark Elbows

Sun exposure and a build-up of dead skin cells can cause the skin on your elbows to appear darker than the rest of your body. If this causes you hassle during the summer months because you’re embarrassed to be seen in a t-shirt, don’t fret! There are several natural remedies and skin care techniques outlined below which you can use to get rid of dark elbows (and knees!) for good.

Steps

Using Home Remedies

  1. Use lemon juice. Lemon juice contains citric acid which is a natural bleaching agent. Therefore, applying lemon juice to elbows can help to lighten the skin. To use:
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    • Cut a large lemon in half. Squeeze out some of the juice from both halves so that you have two hollow halves or “cups”. Rub each lemon cup on your elbows.
    • You can rub away any excess pulp, but don’t wash your elbows for about 3 hours. This gives the lemon juice time to sink in.
    • Wash off the lemon juice with some warm water. As lemon juice can be drying, you should moisturize the area with petroleum jelly.
    • Repeat this every day until the dark skin begins to fade. You should see a significant difference within a couple of weeks.
  2. Apply heavy cream and turmeric. A mixture of heavy cream and turmeric works well to lighten the skin on elbows, particularly on people with darker skin tones. Turmeric is a natural bleaching agent which helps to reduce melanin in the skin.
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    • Get some heavy cream (or milk with a high fat content) and boil it until it is thick and clotted.
    • Mix in a half teaspoon of turmeric, with a half cup of gram-flour and blend into a paste.
    • Apply this paste to your elbows (and knees), using a circular motion, then rinse off.
    • Be aware that turmeric can dye the skin a yellowish-orange color, but this will fade after a day or two.
  3. Make a paste using milk and baking soda. This remedy helps to lighten elbows as milk contains lactic acid which reduces skin pigmentation, while the baking soda helps to exfoliate dead skin cells.
    • Mix enough milk to turn the baking soda in to a paste.
    • Apply on your elbows and gently scrub it in a circular motion. Do this until you notice your skin is lighter.
  4. Try mixing yogurt and vinegar. Yogurt and vinegar contain lactic and acetic acid which both help with lightening skin color.
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    • To use, combine one teaspoon of yogurt with one teaspoon of white vinegar and mix until they form a paste.
    • Apply to elbows, rubbing in a circular motion. Leave for 20 minutes, then rinse off and moisturize.
  5. Mix lemon juice and yogurt in a cup. Use a brush to wipe off the dirt or sweat trapped in your elbow before applying this mixture. Use a spoon and add a small amount of water to the mixture. Use a brush or your hand to apply the mixture on the dark skin of your elbows. Wait for 10 to 20 minutes for the mixture to dry off. Rinse and wash it off. Use a dry (and clean) cloth to dry.

Exfoliating and Moisturizing

  1. Scrub your elbows. Scrubbing your elbows helps to remove dry, flaky skin cells which become trapped in the elbow crease, causing skin to darken.
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    • Use a loofah or wash cloth to exfoliate your elbows, along with an exfoliating shower gel.
    • Alternatively, you can make your own sugar scrub by mixing 2 parts sugar (white or brown) and 1 part oil (almond, coconut or olive).
    • Just remember not to scrub too hard or too frequently, as this may cause your skin to produce extra cells which can make your elbows even darker. Scrub gently, just once or twice a week.
    • Be patient and you will soon notice a big difference.
  2. Moisturize your skin after scrubbing. Dry skin causes skin to darken, so remember to keep your elbows moisturized!
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    • Moisturize after each shower or bath (as hot water can be drying) and before you go to bed at night. For best results, use lotions which contain shea butter, jojoba oil or olive oil.
    • Another, more intensive ay to moisturize your elbows is to apply a thick layer of petroleum jelly, coconut oil or pure shea butter to your elbows before bed. Then cut the toes off some cotton tube socks and slide the socks over your arm to cover your elbow.
    • Leave the sock on your elbows as you sleep, then remove in the morning. This will prevent the moisturizer from rubbing off onto your bed sheets and will also provide extra heat, which will help your skin to absorb more moisture.
  3. Wear sunscreen. Sun exposure can cause damage skin and make the skin on elbows and knees darker, so it’s important to wear sunscreen everyday.
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    • Although this is especially important during the sunny summer months, harmful UV rays are present even when it’s cloudy or raining, so your should wear sunscreen all year round.
    • Make sunscreen application part of your morning routine.

Tips

  • If the lemon juice stings unbearably, your skin might be dry, in which case you need to moisturize it with petroleum jelly the night before you use the lemon.
  • You can also replace the heavy cream with buttermilk and the turmeric with ground oatmeal and two ground almonds.

Warnings

  • Be careful; turmeric will stain.

Things You’ll Need

  • Lemons and petroleum jelly (vaseline)
  • Heavy cream, gram flour, turmeric, and rose water.
  • Milk and baking soda
  • Yogurt and vinegar
  • Shea butter, jojoba oil or olive oil.

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How to Make Creme Fraiche

Creme fraiche is a delicious type of cream that originated in France. It can be added to your favorite dishes as a topping or sauce and substituted in many recipes to add a rich texture. Although it can be expensive to buy in stores and restaurants, making it at home is simple and easy.

Steps

Making Basic Creme Fraiche

  1. Pour one cup of heavy cream into a jar with a lid. If you prefer, you can use yogurt instead of heavy cream but the results will be a bit runnier than traditional creme fraiche.[1]
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  2. Add one tablespoon of buttermilk. Put the lid on the jar and shake well for fifteen to twenty seconds.
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  3. Place the closed jar on a windowsill. The cream needs to sit for 24 hours in order to form. Stir one to two times during this waiting period.
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  4. Stir the thickened creme fraiche. It should be quite thick now, peaking with the spoon. Refrigerate for six hours before serving.
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  5. Serve and enjoy! The creme fraiche is good for 7-10 days before needing to be discarded. Keep refrigerated in a sealed container.[2]
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Making Variations of Creme Fraiche

  1. Make sweetened creme fraiche. Add one to two tablespoons of powdered sugar to taste, and stir well. If desired, at one teaspoon of vanilla as well.
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  2. Whip your creme fraiche. Use a whisk or an egg-beater to beat the creme fraiche. It should peak, but will not become stiff like classic whipped cream. [3]
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  3. Try herbed creme fraiche. Add chives and tarragon with a bit of lemon juice, salt, and pepper for a savory variation perfect when served with meat.[4]
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Cooking with Creme Fraiche

  1. Try scrambled eggs with creme fraiche. For the lightest, creamiest eggs add one to two tablespoons and whisk well before cooking over low heat.
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  2. Substitute creme fraiche for cream in soups. Using your favorite cream-based soup or chowder recipe, switch out the cream for creme fraiche in half the amount. This will provide a more rich texture as well as a slightly enhanced flavor.
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  3. Make creamy mashed potatoes. After boiling and mashing your potatoes, add in half a cup of creme fraiche with a bit of softened butter and blend. The resulting mashed potatoes will be creamy and light, a perfect side dish.
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  4. Serve creme fraiche with grilled fruit for dessert. Choose a fruit to your liking, although peaches and apricots work well, and grill them with a little brown sugar. Serve with a dollop of creme fraiche.
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Tips

  • Creme fraiche will thicken faster in a warm room, so if your house is cold you may need to let it sit for a bit longer than usual.
  • Creme fraiche can be used as a direct substitute for sour cream in many recipes.

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How to Be a Workaholic

Sometimes, the normal 9 to 5 grind just can’t get you what you need from your career. If you’re unsatisfied with your rate of advancement in your company, want to earn more money, or want to start getting noticed as a leader, devoting extra time and energy to your work is a surefire way to earn a reputation as someone who takes work seriously. However, even workaholics need to take steps to balance their work life with their personal life. Start with Step 1 below to learn how to get ahead at work while staying safe and sane.

Steps

Exceeding Expectations

  1. Ask for overtime. The most straightforward way to show a serious dedication to your work is to simply work more than the average employee. Though some companies have policies against giving overtime hours to employees, many will allow you to do so. If your company is receptive to the idea of you working overtime, ask your supervisor to for permission right away. Not only will this show your boss that you’re willing to go that all-important extra step to get the job done, but it will also give you a nice bump in your next paycheck.
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    • In the United States, the Fair Labor Standards Act (FLSA) dictates that employees that work more than 40 hours in a given week will receive at least one and a half times their base pay for the additional hours worked. Though individual states may have laws that differ, eligible employees are legally entitled to the federal one and a half rate if it is higher than state law allows.[1]
    • Note that overtime generally is only an option for hourly employees — salaried employees don’t necessarily get paid more for working longer hours. If you’re salaried, you may instead want to ask your supervisor for a bonus for performing extra work.
  2. Pursue new projects without being asked to. Generally, managers and supervisors love it when their employees take on additional responsibilities without being told to do so. Doing this shows initiative, intelligence, and ambition. If executed correctly, it can also make life easier for your boss, which can earn you his or her respect as well as more tangible rewards. However, when pursuing new projects, be careful not to overstep your authority or embarrass other employees. Your goal is to be ambitious, but not arrogant. Below are just a few ideas to get you started:
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    • Present your boss with a report detailing ways to make your work more efficient.
    • Organize and run meetings to help you work effectively on other projects without bothering your boss.
    • Brainstorm a list of strategies for increasing the company’s profitability.
    • Organize internal office events (birthday parties, holidays, and so on).
  3. Get engaged in your office life. It’s much, much easier to work effectively if you have a positive relationship with your colleagues. This means making an effort to have friendly, positive interactions with them on a regular basis. At the very least, you should try to spend meal breaks with your coworkers often. Use these opportunities to get to know your coworkers through small talk and friendly conversation. If you can’t think of anything to say, you can always ask about the food they’re eating.
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    • If you find that you enjoy talking to your coworkers, you may want to invite them to spend time with you outside of work. For instance, you can invite them to get drinks with you, to play a game of golf or your preferred sport, or to visit a mutual acquaintance. However, if you don’t see yourself being a close friend to your coworkers, this isn’t absolutely necessary.
    • Obviously, this general rule holds true for jobs that don’t take place in an office as well. People who work in restaurants, factories, fire stations, army bases, hospitals, and countless other places can benefit from friendly interactions with their coworkers just as much as office workers can.
  4. Finish projects early. Work can often seem like one long chain of looming deadlines — daily duties need to be finished by the time you leave each day, minor projects need to be finished by the end of the week, major projects need to be finished by the end of the month, and so on. If you can manage to complete your work earlier than you’re required to, not only will you make a great impression on your superiors, but you’ll also give yourself a chance to take on additional responsibilities, which can in turn increase your profile at work. When your superiors are giving out promotions, they’re likely to consider the hardest-working, promptest employees first. Make sure you’re at the top of their list by gaining a reputation for delivering high-quality work with a quick turnaround.
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    • While it’s a great idea to make a habit of turning in projects early, be careful not to do this too much. If you turn in every single project early, your superiors may get the impression that they’re not giving you enough to do and may increase your workload, making you work more for the same pay. If you can, try to focus on turning in only the most important, attention-grabbing projects early.
  5. Deliver more than you’re asked for. As noted above, most managers and supervisors respect hard work, ambition, and creativity. If you’re looking to get ahead at work, there’s hardly a better way to do it than by giving your managers more than what they ask for. Doing this shows that you’re serious about your commitment to your job and that you’re a more valuable employee than others who only do exactly what they’re asked to do. However, as when attempting to finish projects early, you’ll need to balance your ambition with the reality that consistently working extremely hard can be tremendously taxing on the body and mind. Try to reserve your absolute best efforts for important projects where they’re likely to be noticed. Below are just a few sample ideas:
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    • If asked to present a report of internal company data, do your own independent research so that you can extrapolate meaningful take-aways from your results.
    • If asked to clean up a cluttered storeroom, develop your own system for organizing the items and write out directions so others can use it.
    • If sales figures for your company are slipping, test and develop your own sales techniques and share them with your coworkers.
  6. Bring your work home with you. When most people get home from a long day on the job, more work is the last thing they have on their mind. However, if you can stand to do so, occasionally doing additional work at home can separate you from the pack. This can be in the form of telecommuting to meetings from your home computer, doing additional research or analysis “homework” for important projects, taking important business calls, and more.
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    • If you have a family, you’ll want to avoid doing excessive amounts of work at home. While a single person can get away with doing lots of extra work at home, the commitments of a family can make it difficult to devote your entire attention to your work when you’re at home. The exception to this rule, of course, is if the nature of your job requires you to do most or all of your work from home.

Getting Noticed

  1. Dress for success. Though there are plenty of exceptions to the rule, people in general can be somewhat shallow, especially if they know you in a formal business context. If you dress in a serious, dignified manner, people (including your bosses and coworkers) are more likely to treat you seriously. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to wear tailored suits to work every day — expensive is not always better. Unless you’ve got the cash for a seriously high-class wardrobe, you’re probably better off sticking with one of the affordable yet dignified options below:
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    • For men: It’s hard to go wrong with a plain pair of khakis or slacks and a modest button-up shirt. For extra class, you may want to consider adding a jacket and a tie. If you work at a casual place of business (like an internet startup), you may be able to get away with an outfit as informal as a t-shirt and shorts.
    • For women: A long-sleeved shirt and skirt combination works well in most offices. Conservative dresses are also a good option. Suits and pantsuits are smart choices for jobs that require you to interact with the public, while casual jobs may allow you to get away with a t-shirt and jeans.
  2. Always act like what you’re doing is important. In addition to dressing to fit the part of a serious, dedicated employee, you’ll want to ensure that the way you act also gives this impression. To a certain extent, other peoples’ opinions of you are shaped by your own opinions of yourself. Thus, acting like whatever you’re doing at the moment is important is a great way to make other people in the office realize that you are important. Try adopting the following habits to ensure that people think of you as an indispensable employee:
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    • Walk briskly and with purpose, even if you’re just heading to the cooler to get a drink of water.
    • Speak clearly and confidently.
    • When you walk past people, greet them quickly, but keep walking.
    • If you’re at your desk, sit up straight in your chair.
  3. Don’t be afraid to express your opinions. Unless they have delicate egos, for the most part, bosses appreciate receiving feedback from their employees — positive or negative. Offering your opinions occasionally shows that you’re engaged in your job and that you care what happens to yourself and to the company. Depending on the company morale at your workplace, this can noticeably set you apart from the majority of employees. Below are a few ideas for when and where it’s appropriate to make a point to express yourself:
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    • At company strategy meetings, offer ideas for how the company can make itself more competitive.
    • Ask intelligent questions whenever you are unsure of how to proceed in your work. This can make you look especially good if you do so when others seem reluctant to pose their own questions (like during an awkward silence following a tense meeting).
    • If you’re unhappy about some aspect of your job, talk to your supervisor about changing it. However, don’t be offended if you receive a “no”.
  4. Seek out challenges. Taking on new responsibilities at work can be quite challenging, especially before you’ve had time to adjust to your new role. However, if you’re successfully able to perform your new duties, you’ll be rewarded with recognition, a more important position at your business, and (possibly) more money. However, in seeking new responsibilities, be sure not to over-extend yourself by biting off more than you can chew. Make sure that you can handle the additional workload before taking on new responsibilities or you run the risk of having to ask for less work, which can be embarrassing on a professional level.
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    • If there aren’t any obvious ways to expand your current responsibilities at work, try asking your supervisor directly for more responsibilities. There’s a significant chance that s/he will be able to assign you additional work, and even if s/he can’t, you’ll look impressive for taking the initiative to ask for it.
  5. Call attention to your efforts. If you work hard, you deserve to be recognized for it. However, in the hustle and bustle of the work week, good work can easily go unnoticed. Don’t let your accomplishments get swept under the rug. Instead, look for excuses to showcase your efforts. Try to bring up successful projects that you’ve completed in ways that make it clear that you are responsible for the success without seeming like a braggart. If you’ve actually done a good job, you have no need to be embarrassed to do so. Below are just a few opportunities where you may have the opportunity to show off your good work:
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    • If you’ve completed a project and haven’t received much recognition, try sharing it with others via a group email. You can easily pose your email as a mere “keeping everyone up to speed” message while ensuring that important coworkers and supervisors see your work.
    • If you’ve completed a project that is somewhat relevant to a new project being discussed, bring up your old work as an example of how to proceed or as guidance for new areas of work to explore.
  6. Be friendly, but not irreverent. Having an upbeat, positive attitude in the workplace is a great way isn’t just a way to appear energetic and motivated to others (though it is this). It’s also a way to keep your own spirits up and make yourself a more effective worker. If you go out of your way to be friendly, you’ll have an easier time interacting with other employees, who will also generally find it easier to work with you. This makes it easier to collaborate or ask for help on projects, increasing your productivity. Finally, it’s worth noting that you’re more likely to receive rewards and promotions if you’re well-liked.
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    • While you’ll want to make an effort to be friendly, you’ll want to stay away from touchy topics of conversation and racy humor. Getting a quick laugh isn’t worth sabotaging your efforts by offending a coworker or having to receive sensitivity training.

Fostering Good Work Habits

  1. Eliminate distractions while you work. There’s no reason to spend hours and hours at work if you can’t get anything done while you’re working. Ensure that you’re a productive worker by removing any and all distractions that might sidetrack your efforts to get your work done. Some of the most common distractions for workers (along with ideas for thwarting them) are listed below:
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    • Idle noise/chatter at the workplace — use headphones or earplugs or move to a new work area.
    • Conversation with other employees — cordially tell the offending person that you’re busy and that you can talk when you’re done. Alternatively, try placing a sign at your desk or work area politely notifying others not to disturb you.
    • Internet diversions (games, social media, etc.) — install productivity add-ons or site-blocking programs to your browser.
  2. Set ambitious (but realistic) goals. If you’re having trouble motivating yourself to work hard, sometimes, deciding on a specific goal and giving yourself a deadline to achieve it can help you get out of the workday doldrums and become productive. When choosing goals, be ambitious, but have a firm grasp of what you can and can’t achieve in your chosen time frame. Setting goals that are out of your reach is essentially setting yourself up for failure, which can cause you to feel like an under-achiever, hurting your morale and conceivably making it even more difficult to stay motivated in the long run.
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  3. Break big projects down into manageable parts. Sometimes, important projects can seem so large and intimidating that it’s difficult to tell where to start. In these cases, it can be helpful to focus on some small but significant aspect of the project and complete this first. Completing this small part of the larger project gives you a sense of achievement that you can use to fuel your motivation as you continue to the rest of the project. You’ll also have an idea of which parts of the project are likely to cause problems and can thus dedicate more effort to these things.
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    • For example, if you’ve been tasked with making a half-hour presentation to a group of high-level company employees, you might want to start by focusing on creating a thorough, detailed outline. Though the outline only represents a fraction of the work needed to prepare for the presentation, it can make the rest of the project easier by guiding your creation of slides, talking points, and so on.
  4. Try to inspire greatness in others. Leadership is a skill that’s desirable in nearly all professions. Supervisors look for employees who have natural leadership abilities when they’re looking for employees to reward. Showing leadership at work can get you recognition, more important responsibilities, and even raises and promotions. To demonstrate leadership, make an effort to help others in their duties and to spearhead your own group projects. As noted above, you’ll also want to ensure that your leadership is recognized by showing it to others and bringing it up at appropriate opportunities. If you have a reputation as a leader at your workplace, it’s usually only a matter of time before you become an actual leader. Below are a few opportunities for leadership:
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    • Take the opportunity to train a new employee and help him or her become acquainted with his or her duties.
    • Design your own project, then, with permission from your supervisors, enlist other employees to help you complete it.
    • Make a point of leading the discussion during group meetings without a designated leader.

Staying Healthy and Happy

  1. Always schedule time for breaks. Workaholics should spend much of their time working, but they shouldn’t spend every second of their day working. Occasional breaks help recharge your body and mind, ensuring that you’re as sharp as possible throughout the day and increasing your long-term productivity by fighting fatigue. Additionally, breaks help you stay in a good mood, which can be an essential component of being effective at your job, especially if you work on a face-to-face basis with customers. Don’t skip your breaks to squeeze in a few more minutes of work — work smarter, not longer.
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    • It’s worth noting that you may also be legally obligated to take breaks. In the United States, there are few federal laws dictating the types of breaks an employer is obligated to provide.[2] However, state laws vary from state to state. For instance, in California, employees must take a 30-minute meal break if they work for more than 5 hours straight unless their total work for the day is less than 6 hours.[3]
  2. Don’t work during time off. During vacations, sick days, days off, and family time, try to work as little as possible, if at all. The periods in which you’re off of work are meant to allow you to metaphorically recharge your batteries, rest, and recuperate. While some work may be unavoidable, devoting too much of your “off” time to work can effectively negate the restorative benefits you may have otherwise gained. To ensure that you’re able to stay fully motivated when you’re actually at work, allow yourself to enjoy your days off completely work-free.
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    • Keeping your schedule clear during your time off may mean doing additional work before you leave. If this is the case, do as much work as you can before your time off so that you’ll be able to spend as little effort worrying about work as possible.
  3. Get plenty of sleep. Nearly every part of a job is more difficult if you’re not well-rested. Staying focused during meetings, keeping track of numerous projects, and ensuring your work gets done on time can be challenging when you haven’t had sufficient rest. To avoid these problems, try to get a full night’s sleep as often as possible (if not every night). Doing so makes it easier for you to stay focused on your work when it really counts — at your job. It also decreases the likelihood that you’ll need to take time off of work because of illness by keeping your immune system strong.[4]
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    • Though everyone’s biological needs are different, most medical resources agree that adults generally need about 7-9 hours of sleep for optimal health, mood, and mental function.[5]
  4. Maintain interests outside of work. Though work should be a big focus of a workaholic’s life, it shouldn’t be his or her only focus. Having friends and hobbies outside of your work life can help keep you motivated at work by keeping you from “burning out” from the routine of your job. More importantly, however, it’s a way to enrich your life by increasing both the quality and variety of your experiences. People aren’t defined solely by the work they complete in their lifetime — they’re also defined by the fun they have, the connections they make with other people, the memories they create, and the love they share. Don’t spend your entire life working. If you don’t have something to work for, what’s the point?
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    • Sometimes, people who devote most of their energy to their work have a difficult time making friends outside of work. If this is true for you, don’t feel stressed, as this is not uncommon among workaholics. In such situations, you may find that enrolling in a singles club can help you make new connections on a busy schedule.
  5. Find meaning in your job. Let’s face it — not every job is a dream job. Sometimes, the things we do to support ourselves can be very, very different than the things we like to do to find personal fulfillment. However, it’s almost always easier to work hard if you can find some reason to invest yourself in your job emotionally, even if the reason’s a small one. Look for minor details that give you satisfaction, allow you to take pride in your work, or make the world a better place in some small (but noticeable way).
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    • For instance, let’s say we have a job that’s often described as being relatively unimportant — working as a cook at a fast food restaurant. While some may see this as monotonous, thankless work, we can try to focus on the positive, satisfying aspects of the job. For instance, in your position, you’re responsible for quickly satisfying hundreds of busy, working people every day. If you don’t do a good job, you can easily put some of them in an unhappy mood, which may affect them in other areas of their life. On the other hand, if you take pride in your work and focus on doing a great job, you can help these hundreds of people have satisfying meals, which can in turn help them be the best that they can be at home and work.
  6. Spend time with your family, if you have one. This is something that many workaholics struggle to do and some fail to do entirely. The work/family balance is one that’s sometimes difficult to manage even for people working normal 40 hour per week jobs. For people who work 70 hours per week, striking the right balance can be extremely challenging. However, your family is not something that you should neglect in order to devote extra time to work. Ultimately, the love of a happy family is much more fulfilling than the rewards offered from a demanding job. If you find yourself having to debate whether to spend a few nights every week with your spouse and children or to work extra-long hours to get the promotion you’ve been eying, recognize that your priorities are out of order. Even workaholics should strive to be loving spouses and parents, and sometimes this means passing up on more work to make time for the things that really matter.
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  7. Motivate yourself. Just as it’s easier to work hard if you can find satisfaction in your job, it’s also easier to work if you give yourself something to work for. For a few lucky people, working is an extremely satisfying activity in and of itself. However, for most, it’s often something to be done simply to support oneself and one’s family. During the humdrum daily grind of work, it’s easy to forget the end purpose of your work. Reminding yourself of the reason why you’re working can help you focus and put in the extra effort it takes to get ahead when it really counts.
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    • For example, if you’re working a job you’re not crazy about to support your children, you may find it helpful to place a few small pictures of them in your cubicle or work area. When you’re having a hard time motivating yourself to stay late or take on an extra project, looking at these pictures can give you a handy reminder of exactly what you hope to achieve by working hard.

Tips

  • Let your customers know you will always be available for their needs.
  • Find a part time job on the side of your real job.
  • Tell your family you’re busy and you cannot be bothered at the moment.
  • If you have time and don’t like sleep, find a 3rd part time job.

Warnings

  • It’s recommended you get 8 hours of sleep even if you feel you can go with 4.
  • This is the first and most important warning, if your family is not understanding then you might have problems at home.

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How to Make Fabric Softener

If you want a more ecological or more economical alternative to commercial fabric softeners, you can make your own at home. Here are a few simple methods you can use.

Steps

Vinegar

  1. Combine vinegar with 25 to 30 drops essential oil.[1] Stir the essential oil directly into the container of white distilled vinegar for a minute or so to ensure that the two liquids combine well.
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    • Note that the essential oil is not necessary. The vinegar is the component responsible for softening clothes. It strips away residue on your clothes that would otherwise make them stiff, and it has properties that can break down some of the minerals found in hard water supplies.
    • If you do decide to use essential oils, you can use any scents you want.
  2. Add 1/4 cup (60 ml) to your rinse cycle. For a normal load, fill a fabric softener ball with 1/4 cup (60 ml) of the fabric softener solution or add the same amount directly to the washer just before the rinse cycle begins.
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    • Do not add the fabric softener to the machine before its primary wash cycle.
    • Pour the rest of the fabric softener into a storage container. Make sure that this fabric softener is labeled so that you do not accidentally use it for another purpose. Shake or stir well to before each use to make sure that the essential oil and vinegar have not separated as it sat.
  3. Continue through a standard rinse cycle. You do not need to do anything special from this point on. Let your rinse cycle finish up as it normally would.
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Vinegar and Baking Soda

  1. Combine baking soda and hot water. Stir 1 cup (250 ml) baking soda into 2 cups (500 ml) hot water until well combined. Combine the two ingredients in a large bucket or other container.
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    • Note that the baking soda will not dissolve, but it should be completely soaked.
    • This homemade fabric softener is often praised by people who have hard water.
    • Baking soda regulates the pH level in your rinse water, preventing it from becoming too acidic or too alkaline. It also cancels out mineral deposits, like those found in hard water. These mineral deposits are often responsible for making clothes stiff.
  2. Slowly add the vinegar. Slowly add 1 cup (250 ml) white distilled vinegar to the mixture. Stir gently until the baking soda is dissolved.
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    • The vinegar will react with the baking soda, causing a fizzy chemical reaction. Do not pour the vinegar too quickly or you will end up with a mess.
    • Vinegar strips soap and residue from clothing and also helps to soften hard water.
    • Some believe that the vinegar and baking soda cancel each other out, making them ineffective. The salt that is produced from the chemical reaction acts as a buffer in the rinse cycle, however. Moreover, many of the elements that help soften clothes remain in the solution even after the reaction occurs.
  3. Scent the fabric softener, if desired. If you want to make scented fabric softener, then you need to add essential oil or scent booster to the ingredients. Stir either option directly into the fabric softener solution.
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    • If using essential oils, 25 to 30 drops should be sufficient.
    • If using scent booster, add 1/4 to 1/2 cup (60 to 125 ml) of the crystals to your water and stir until dissolved.[2]
    • Scent booster is usually found in the laundry aisle. It is not a natural product, so it may not be preferable from an ecological sense, but it will lend your fabric softener a pleasant scent and may save you money in the long run.
  4. Pour 1/4 cup (60 ml) into your washing machine during the rinse cycle. For a normal load, fill a fabric softener ball with 1/4 cup (60 ml) of the fabric softener solution or add the same amount directly to the washer just before the rinse cycle begins.
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    • Do not add the fabric softener to the machine before its primary wash cycle.
    • Pour the rest of the fabric softener into a storage container. Shake or stir well to combine before each use.
  5. Run the rinse cycle as usual. You do not need to do anything special from this point on. Let your rinse cycle finish up as it normally would.
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Conditioner

  1. Combine vinegar, hair conditioner, and hot water. In a large bucket or other container, stir together 3 cups (750 ml) white distilled vinegar, 2 cups (500 ml) hair conditioner, and 6 cups (1500 ml) hot water until evenly combined.[3]
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    • You can use any hair conditioner you want for this method. To make it more cost effective, choose a cheap brand.
    • Since there are many varieties and scents of conditioner available on the market, your scent options are nearly endless.
    • Note that this is not an “all natural” solution, but it is quite effective. The vinegar strips aways stiffening residue and the conditioner softens fibers.
  2. Add 1/4 to 1/2 cup (60 to 125 ml) to your washing machine just before the rinse cycle. For a normal load, fill a fabric softener ball with 1/4 cup to 1/2 cup (60 ml to 125 ml) of the fabric softener solution or add the same amount directly to the washer just before the rinse cycle begins.
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    • Do not add the fabric softener to the machine before its primary wash cycle.
    • Pour the rest of the fabric softener into a storage container. Shake or stir well to combine before each use.
  3. Run the rinse cycle as usual. You do not need to do anything special from this point on. Let your rinse cycle finish up as it normally would.
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Fabric Softener Sheets

  1. Cut cotton cloth into small squares. Cut clean cotton cloth into squares that are roughly 5 inches (12.7 cm) along each side.[4]
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    • Cotton works well because it is a natural fiber and relatively breathable. Avoid fabrics with fibers that are spaced too tightly together. Also avoid synthetic fabrics.
    • You can use a rag or old piece of cloth for this, but make sure that the material you use is clean.
  2. Spray each square with white vinegar. Fill a small spray bottle with undiluted distilled white vinegar. Spray both sides of each square until moist to the touch.
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    • Let dry slightly. The cloth can be moist, but it should not be dripping wet by the time you add it to the dryer.
    • The vinegar is the only element in this fabric softener formula that lends itself to actually softening your clothes. It may not be as strong as a liquid fabric softener using vinegar, but some of the effects should still remain.
  3. Add a few drops of essential oil onto one square. Drop 3 to 5 drops of your favorite essential oil onto a cloth square. Spread the drops out so that they seep into the fibers of the entire square.
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    • The essential oil will give your clothes a pleasant yet mild fragrance. You can technically use this method without the use of essential oils, but since the softening effects are less powerful than a liquid fabric softener alternative, it would make more sense to take advantage of the deodorizing and re-scenting abilities of this method.
  4. Throw the scented fabric into your dryer. Place the scented fabric softener sheet directly into your dryer as you prepare to dry a load of clothes. Run a standard drying cycle. You do not need to do anything special from this point on.
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    • Each dryer sheet can be used for two or three loads, but you may need to refresh the scent by adding 3 drops or more of the essential oil before use. Refresh the softening properties by giving the sheet another quick spray of vinegar.

Fabric Softener Crystals

  1. Mix coarse salt and essential oil. Add 20 to 30 drops of your favorite essential oil to 2 cups (500 ml) of Epsom salt or coarse sea salt in a medium bowl or container.[5]
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    • Stir well until all of the essential oil has been spread over and absorbed by the salt.
    • You can use any scent of essential oil you want to use. If desired, you can even combine scents to create your own unique fragrance.
  2. Stir in baking soda. Mix 1/2 cup (125 ml) of baking soda into the scented salts until evenly distributed.
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    • Alternatively, you could leave the baking soda out altogether and add it to your machine separately during the wash.
  3. Add 2 to 3 Tbsp (30 to 45 ml) to the rinse cycle. Before your washing machine enters a rinse cycle, add the scented crystals directly to the water in your machine.
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    • Only use 2 to 3 Tbsp (30 to 45 ml) of the fabric softener crystals.
    • If you did not add baking soda to the crystals, you can add up to 1/2 cup (125 ml) of baking soda in conjunction with this fabric softener per normal load of laundry.
    • Do not add the fabric softener crystals to the start of the washing cycle, before the washing part actually takes place. Only add it to the washing machine during the rinse cycle.
  4. Run the rinse cycle as usual. You do not need to do anything special from this point on. Let your rinse cycle finish up as it normally would.
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Warnings

  • Never mix vinegar and chlorine bleach. Doing so produces a dangerous gas.
  • Do not use apple cider vinegar or another tinted vinegar for any of these recipes. Tinted vinegars will stain or darken your clothes.

Things You’ll Need

  • Vinegar
  • Hot water
  • Essential oils
  • Baking soda
  • Scent booster
  • Hair conditioner
  • Scissors
  • Cotton fabric
  • Coarse salt
  • Resealable container

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How to Recover From Being Groomed

Being “groomed” (a child or minor being emotionally manipulated by an adult in to a relationship for sexual gain) can be a traumatizing experience. However, even once the person being groomed is safe, the emotional troubles still last on. Here’s how to deal with them.

Note: The target audience is an older child or teenager who is being groomed, but this can be applied by parents helping their younger children if need be.

Steps

  1. Make sure you’re safe. This may have been handled a number of ways, such as blocking the groomer’s number and social media accounts, getting the police involved, or even moving schools/towns. If you still have to see the groomer or someone else involved regularly, find ways you can prevent that. It is important you let the police and your parents/guardians know about the grooming so they can ensure you are safe as possible. Always follow their instructions.
  2. Inform and protect your friends. A lot of people being groomed tell their friends about their experience, but many keep it a secret or think it’s embarrassing. In reality, you don’t always need to explain all the details but you can still tell people you know in order to keep them safe and bring awareness. It can also be therapeutic to discuss your feelings and quips (problems or personal issues) about the situation and help you move on. Always check that the information you’re spreading is safe for you to do so by asking your parents first what and who you can tell.
  3. Talk it out. If you have a very trusted and emotionally mature friend, you can just let it all out to them. However, if the groomed person is very young, it may not be appropriate to disclose the situation to people their age or discuss it with them. Instead, use a counsellor or therapist.
  4. Write it down. If it isn’t too straining emotionally, it can help to write down the events and how you felt about them. You may wish to keep it as a reference in case something comes up, or you may want to destroy it. It’s like writing in a diary.—It’s harmless and clarifies your feelings and emotions.
  5. Stop romanticizing it. Since grooming is simply emotional manipulation, you may feel a range of emotions including missing your groomer, wanting that attention back, regretting stopping it, and so forth. This is normal but can be dangerous, since you’re more likely to be easily groomed again. Don’t forget how it negatively affected you and how upset it made you feel. It seems grim to dwell on the negative, but overcoming emotional manipulation means knowing what emotions were normal and which were created intentionally by the manipulator.
  6. Find healthy relationships and cultivate them. In some severe cases, the groomed person loses contact with their friends and family. Even if your case isn’t as severe as this, it’s important to allow your friends and family to support you by spending time with them. If you’re a teenager, you may feel wary of romantic relationships now. This is okay and completely normal. Don’t rush in to anything or force yourself, but it can help to have a slow-moving romantic relationship with someone your age so you can learn how healthy romance works.
  7. Take away the things that harmed you and put in things that help you. Many groomers leave the groomed person addicted to drugs or alcohol, or use things like fancy technology to bribe them. It can be important to get rid of these things and help the healing process. If you’re constantly reminded of your groomer when using your phone, it’s not worth it. If you’re left dependent on drugs or alcohol, get help from therapists or hotlines. Once you’ve done this, get productive hobbies that help you carry on with your life. You may want to take up a sport or write music with your friends- anything that can produce positivity.
  8. Reclaim your personality and traits. Some people who have been groomed feel “tainted”, like certain things become weaknesses such as natural kindness or willingness to trust, because they were used against them. Let yourself move beyond this mental barrier and acknowledge that you have a lot of great traits and you have plenty of potential.
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Warnings

  • Always put your safety as the priority .

How to Round in Excel

Microsoft’s Excel spreadsheet program is an exceptional program for formatting and listing important data. If you want to display round numbers, you can round numbers in Excel in two ways: with cell formatting or with formulas. Cell formatting is best when you want to round the numbers in a box, while formatting is best when you want to reference other data in the sheet.

Steps

Using Cell Formatting

  1. Enter your data series into your Excel spreadsheet. Save it frequently to avoid losing data.
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  2. Highlight any cell(s) you want rounded. For multiple cells, highlight by clicking on the top left-most cell of the data and dragging your cursor down and to the right until you’ve reached the bottom right-most cell. The cells you’ve highlighted should automatically shade if you’ve highlighted correctly.
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  3. Right-click your mouse on any highlighted cell. Scroll down the drop down menu until you find “Format Cells.”
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  4. Ensure you are in the “Number” tab in the formatting dialogue box. Then, choose “Number” in the list on the left hand side of the box.
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  5. Find the place where it says “Decimal Places. Click on the arrow button, up or down, until you get to the desired amount of decimal places.
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    • For instance, if you want to round the number 16.47334 to 1 decimal place, make sure the “Decimal Places” box shows “1.” After clicking “Ok,” the number should read “16.5.”
    • For example, if you want to round the number 846.19 to a whole number, make sure the “Decimal Places” box shows “0.” After clicking “Ok,” the number should read “846.”
  6. Click “Ok” to apply your changes and return to your sheet.
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    • In order to ensure that this change is made with the entire sheet going forward, return to the sheet and click anywhere to remove highlighting. Click the “Format” menu at the top and choose “Cells.”
    • Repeat the action, choosing the Number tab and the Number section. Then, ensure the Decimal Places number is listed as desired.

Using Formulas

  1. Enter the data into your spreadsheet. Save the sheet often as you enter.
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  2. Create a new column to show the rounded numbers in the field. Click on the blank cell next to the number you want to round.
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  3. Bring your cursor to the blank field next to the “fx” button on your home tab. You can also press the “fx” button if you want help building your formula.
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  4. Type an equals sign and the word “ROUND” into the field. Make sure to use all capitals.
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  5. Start an open parenthesis. Type the cell location where the original data is listed, such as A1, followed by a comma and the number of decimal places you want to round. Close your parenthesis.
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    • For example, your formula may appear as “=ROUND(A4, 2)” and it will round up by two decimal places in column A, row 4.
    • Press “Enter” to activate the formula.
    • Use “zero” as the decimal place if you want to round to the nearest whole number.
  6. Opt to replace ROUND with ROUNDUP or ROUNDDOWN if you know you want to round up or round down by a certain number of decimal points.
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  7. Use a negative number to round by multiples of 10. For example, “=ROUND(A4,-1)” will round the number into the next multiple of 10.
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    • Similarly, the formula “MROUND” will round to the nearest multiple of any specified number. If you want to round to the nearest multiple of two or five, this is a great formula to use.[1]
  8. Consider using the same formula on a whole column. Select the cell where you just made your first round formula. Click and drag your cursor on the small box in the lower right hand corner. Drag it down to copy your formula to cells in the same column.
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    • Excel should automatically adjust the location based on the relative row, but it should not change your specified number of decimal places.

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How to Handle a Difficult Boss

One of the most common reasons employees quit their jobs is because of a difficult boss. If you find yourself in a situation where you find it nearly impossible to work with your boss, then it’s time to take action to improve your relationship, or to think about further steps to take if you feel that the situation is out of your control. If you focus on being constructive and on keeping your cool, you may be surprised by how easy it is to handle a difficult boss after all. If you want to be on the way to making your work environment more positive and comfortable, see Step 1 to get started.

Steps

Improving Your Relationship

  1. Talk to your boss about it. You may feel like the absolute last resort is to actually talk to your boss about the problems you’re having, but that’s where you’re mistaken. If you really want to improve your relationship with your boss instead of waiting for things to get worse, then the best thing you can do is ask your boss if you can schedule a time to talk and be honest about your feelings while maintaining your professionalism. Once you have face time with your boss, make eye contact, speak clearly, and let him or her know what the problem is.[1]
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    • Make sure you focus on how your problem is with working with your boss, not your actual boss or some aspect of his or her personality. Talk about how you’re having trouble communicating, which is making it more difficult to meet objectives, or say something else about how you’re struggling to meet deadlines because of changing expectations. Frame the conversation so it sounds like you want your company to succeed, which can only happen if you and your boss work better together.
    • It’s important to choose your words carefully. Avoid any personal attacks that may offend your boss, and focus on discussing your work.
    • Picking a time to talk in advance will keep your boss from being caught off guard and will give the situation the seriousness that it deserves.
  2. Work with your boss instead of against him or her. If you really want to improve your relationship with your boss, then you should work with your boss to improve the state of your company, instead of against your boss. Though it may feel good to make your boss look stupid at a meeting or to send a passive-aggressive email to your boss, in the long run, this won’t do any good for your relationship and it won’t make you feel any better. Furthermore, making your relationship with your boss even worse will make it harder to get your work done, and at the end of the day, nothing is more counterproductive than that.[2]
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    • Help your boss achieve his goals by being helpful, present, and supportive. Even if he’s difficult to deal with, your life will be easier if you move with the grain instead of against it.
  3. Keep track of all of your conversations. Keeping track of all of your conversations, whether it’s through emails or memos, will help you be on top of your situation with your boss. Doing so will be helpful for two reasons. First, having a record or everything your boss said will help you in the event that your boss gives you confusing instructions or claims he or she didn’t say something that he or she really said; you can use the written communication as evidence. Second, having a record of everything your boss says to you can be helpful if your relationship is so problematic that you want to discuss the situation with a supervisor; in that case, you’ll have written proof that something is off.[3]
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    • If you’re really struggling to communicate with your boss, then try to make sure that all of your communication happens in front of someone else, so that you have evidence of what happened if your boss tries to deny it.
    • Document everything that you feel is relevant to your concerns with your boss. You may want to purchase a pocket planner so that you can enter the issues on the appropriate dates. Keep this private. You don’t want to pull put the planner and scribble notes in front of him because that will cause more anger. You are keeping notes for your own sake, so that you have all your concerns backed up with facts.
  4. Anticipate problems before they come up. Another way to improve your relationship with your boss is to keep an eye out for problems that may arise, and to react to them with preparation and forethought. If you know that there was a bad traffic accident on the freeway and that your boss is going to come in late, try to delay the meeting until he gets there, or start it off for him. If you know your boss is going to be angry after meeting with a difficult client, give him or her some space instead of bringing up something upsetting, which may start an argument.[4]
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    • If you know that your boss has difficulty accomplishing a certain task, try to keep yourself relatively free so you can be there to help out.

Maintaining the Right Mindset

  1. Refrain from becoming emotional during any discussions with your boss. Even if your boss becomes emotional, you want to maintain your professional manner so that he cannot use anything against you. Note that your boss may become even more aggravated by your calm and professional demeanor, and if this is the case, explain to your boss that you would like to continue the conversation, but the last thing you want is to upset him, so suggest picking up the issue at a later time. If you lose your cool, your boss can blame you, even if you’re upset over something completely legitimate.[5]
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    • If you find yourself getting emotional in the middle of a conversation, excuse yourself and ask to resume the conversation at a later time.
    • If you hear yourself raising your voice, stop, slow down, and take a few deep breaths. If you can’t keep the conversation at a normal level, then you should resume it later.
  2. Be prepared to discuss criticism of yourself when approaching a difficult boss with concerns. Of course you have issues that you may want to discuss personally, but if he feels that you are criticizing him, he may turn the tables and place the focus on you. If this is the case, be professional. Listen to his concerns and tell him that you appreciate his feedback and that you will work on the issues, and then politely return to the problems you have. Don’t get defensive or ignore anything he is telling you.
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    • In fact, it can be helpful to ask yourself if you’re doing everything you can correctly before you start a conversation with your boss. You may be having problems with your boss because you have been doing something wrong without realizing it. It’s best to anticipate anything your boss might say, such as the fact that you’re always late or that your reports need to be proofread more, before you start the conversation. Otherwise, you may be taken aback.
    • Don’t interrupt your boss and wait for him to finish giving his feedback. You don’t want him to think that you’re above listening to him.
  3. Understand that you cannot change your boss. If your boss is characteristically difficult to handle, not just for you but for others, then the likelihood of him changing is minimal. If this is the case, use the opportunity to simply make him aware of your issues. At least he cannot say that he was never informed of your concerns. Though you can’t change your boss or his personality, hopefully talking to your boss will send him on the path to improvement. Furthermore, you can work on improving your relationship without changing your boss.
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    • You and your boss may just not be compatible as people. If this is the case, then you’ll have to find a new way to operate together unless you feel like you have exhausted all of your resources. Sometimes, you may have to accept your differences first before you move on.
  4. Remain professional when confronting your boss, even if you feel your blood boiling. Maintain a calm manner and be prepared to listen to any gripes or lectures that he may want to share with you. Don’t use vulgar language or personal attacks, and don’t be lewd or say anything you would say if you were fighting with a close friend. Remember that you have a professional relationship with this person, not a personal relationship. Even if your boss starts being unprofessional, don’t use that as an excuse to follow suit.
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    • If you have something specific to say to your boss, you may even want to write it down or rehearse it first to make sure that it comes off as professional. You don’t want to start saying something and then realize that you’re stepping out of your bounds halfway through your conversation.
  5. Never go over your boss’s head if you can avoid it. Not only will this cause hostility between you and your boss, but your boss’s boss may refer you back to your boss, which may result in an even more unreceptive situation. You should go over your boss’s head if you feel like you have tried everything with your boss but nothing has worked. Additionally, you can go over your boss’s head if you feel that your boss is being sexually inappropriate, discriminating against you based on your age, gender, race, or another external factor, and that further action needs to be taken outside of your boss’s power.
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    • If you go over your boss’s head at the first sign of a conflict, then you will cause irreparable damage to your relationship. If you can try talking to your boss before talking to someone else, it can save your relationship, as well as your happiness at work.

Taking Further Action

  1. Talk to your supervisor if it’s necessary. If you feel like you have tried everything on your own and need to talk to someone higher up, then it’s time to arrange a meeting with a supervisor to discuss the problems you’re having with your boss. There’s no point in delaying the inevitable if you feel like you really can’t work together with your boss. If you’ve tried everything and know that your relationship has reached a dead end, then it’s time to talk to your supervisor about the situation. Don’t be nervous, and stick to discussing the facts instead of getting emotional. The more concrete examples you have, the more respect you’ll get.
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    • Make sure you use professional language and avoid bad-mouthing your boss in front of your supervisor. You don’t want to say something that makes your supervisor lose respect for you, too. Remember that you want to look like the calm, reasonable one, and that your boss is the one who has been causing all the problems.
  2. Take action if you feel you’ve been discriminated against. If you truly feel that you’ve been discriminated against because of your age, race, gender, or something else beyond your control, then it may be time to take action. You can consult the EEOC for free, or seek out an employee attorney for a fee if you think you’ve been discriminated against and are in a protected class. Don’t be nervous about taking this measure if this is what’s happening; though it won’t be pleasant, this may be the best way to meet your needs.
    • If you’ve witnessed fraud at your company and want to take action, remember that the False Claims Act requires you to first file your claim before you disclose it publicly.
  3. See if you can be transferred within your company. One option that isn’t as extreme as leaving your company but which can make you a lot happier at your workplace is to see if you can be transferred to a different department, or even transferred to a different boss. If you’re truly having trouble with your boss and your supervisors or other people at the company completely understand where you’re coming from, then they may be willing to accommodate your needs. If you make it pretty clear that you won’t be able to stay on if you’re stuck with your current boss, in spite of how much you like the company, then they may be able to find an arrangement that makes you happy.
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    • Of course, all of this depends on your workplace culture and if such arrangements are typically — or even occasionally — made at your workplace. Do your research and see if such a thing has been done before, and look out for tips on how to proceed. Of course, you should try to find this out without letting everyone know about the particular situation you find yourself in.
  4. Decide whether it’s worth it to leave your workplace. Unfortunately, when it comes to today’s job market, good jobs can be few and far between, depending on the industry you’re working in. Before you decide to go on the job market again or to leave your current company, you should ask yourself if it’s really worth it for you to make this change. If your job is causing you mental and physical pain and you really feel like you can’t be there another day and keep your sanity, then it may really be time to leave. However, if you’re just mildly annoyed or frustrated, you may want to hold off, or you may want to explore your options before you resign.
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    • Of course, if your boss is being inappropriate, discriminating against you, or doing other unreasonable things, then there’s no question about it: you have to leave.
    • Ideally, you should be able to look for new work while maintaining your current position. Being employed will make you a more appealing candidate for other companies.
  5. Do your research carefully before you take another job offer. Though you may be bursting at the seams to leave your current work situation, you have to diligently do your research before you take a new offer. If you’re too desperate to leave, you may jump at the chance to work at a new company, even if it ends up not being a good fit. You could end up at a company with a boss who is even more difficult (though this may be hard to imagine now), and will only make your own working life even worse. It’s important to take the time and to make sure that you’re leaving a hostile environment for a comfortable one before you make the transition.
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    • As you interview for a new position, make sure you talk to other people at the company and get a strong sense of what your new boss will be like before you accept an offer. Though you won’t know 100% what your new boss or job will be like until you start working there, you should follow your gut to see if something is off.
    • Though you may be rushing to take on a new offer because it’ll mean you will have to spend less time at your current job, resist the temptation to take something that doesn’t feel quite right just because it means you’ll get to leave your current difficult boss. Tell yourself that it’s a worthy time investment to search for a place where you can truly be happy in the long run.

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